I also worked a full time job. At times, I had an hour commute from that job. I came home, I worked on the blog for hours at a time, I spent even more time trying to comment on other blogs and keep up with my readership and reply to every single comment that came into my blog. I didn’t exercise much. I just kind of sat on the couch, let the Netflix go on auto-play, and blogged. On weekends, I dictated mine and later my husband’s schedule to go around photo shoots and blog planning. There was an absurd amount of working going on, but I was creatively fulfilled.
Until one day, I wasn’t. That’s where this starts.
Be A Little Too Content With Your Life
I’m not going to say this is a ‘catch-all’ for all bloggers, but I did the best work on my blog when I had the most to prove. I lived in a little no-where town in a state I hated and was apart from my husband. I had few friends and was dead set on getting out of a place I had literally just moved to. I also quickly began to dislike my job after some strange things happened. And my blog was awesome. I focused on the best parts of my life. I had time on weekends living alone because I had few friends and little money. When I moved to Florida, I felt pretty awesome. I was really happy, had a little more spending money, and honestly, less time to myself. I was incredibly dedicated and happy in my job. I spent time being healthy - taking longer walks with my dogs and being outside in the warm weather more often. I chose going swimming and for a walk on the beach over a cocktail photo shoot at home. I lost weight because I made sure I made the time for an hour of working out every single night. I made friends and traveled more. I had very little to prove to anyone, and I felt a bit like a braggart talking about how awesome Florida is (or at least how awesome I perceive it to be.) My blog completely fell when I began looking for a home. I didn’t feel like sharing the process was helpful to anyone. It felt like I would only be, again, bragging about the homes I was finding and buying a home. I found it hard to write about anything when the thing that mattered most to me at the moment (and took up all my weekend time) felt like I was being the opposite of humble. Especially when our home buying experience took a turn for the worse, the last thing I wanted to do was recount the terrible, confusing tale online. To be clear, we haven't bought a house, I am unsure when we will be able to, and the whole ordeal isn't over. But it's confusing, and too boring/hard to talk about.
Work Out + Make Dinner + Work 40 Hour Weeks
Get a decent job making decent money that supports your family. Then get home, at a good time, probably before 6PM. Make dinner. Walk your dogs. Work out for an hour. It’s what normal people do, right? Not bloggers. By the time all that stuff is done, it’s usually around 9:30 PM for me. I tried to start blogging, but I would get through editing some photos and half a post and realize it was 11PM, and I needed to be getting to bed. It was frustrating, because I was essentially at full power for 14 straight hours, then adding to it. There was no relaxing. There was a blog schedule to keep up with, and how dare I try and take care of myself first? (Legitimately, I cried about not making my own schedule, so there’s that.)
Spend Too Much Time With Your Family
I stopped taking long trips out of our day for the sole purpose of an outfit shoot. I stopped making sure we came home before sun down so my cocktail photos would look perfect in the right light. I started taking at least an hour a day to cuddle with my husband and watch TV. That replaced blogging. I started to unwind and not touch electronics before bed. No more blogging at 11PM. I started sleeping a lot better.
Start Really Engaging With Those Around You
I would go places and forget about the camera in my bag. I would forget that I should have taken photos of that meal, of that restaurant. I stopped living behind my lens, and started focusing on my friends and family. My husband’s and my relationship improved because he felt I was really engaging in conversations and activities with him rather than focusing on stuff for my blog and panicking if it wasn’t ‘just right.’
Care A Little Less
I have trouble letting things go. I was constantly checking my email, replying over lunch from my phone to people, and working over lunch breaks on my blogs. I cared way too much. Then I relaxed a little.
Despite All Of This, Really Miss Your Blog
Even though I know my blog is stressful, I miss posting. I really do. I miss sharing my photography. I miss pushing my ideas out there. I miss my creative freedom.
Which is why I am back.
I always planned to come back and start posting after the holidays, but our house hunt took a huge toll. And I will never be back to what ‘Of Corgis & Cocktails’ was a bit ago. I’m in a different life path at this point, and honestly feel like a different, much happier person, which is part of what inspired the ‘Much Adoo’ rebranding. And I’ve developed even further since I switched over. You can now find a bit more about my work and what I do, because I feel like the work I do most of the week is kind of great and I want to share it all in one place. I also want a place to post my inspiration, my photography, and everything in between. So basically, a lot of design, Disney, dogs, and pretty drinks. I hope you enjoy. And if not - I’m going to be OK with that.